Are You A Masculinist?

I’ve got new hag hair! Well, it’s of course the same hair as before (got to be careful not to start any “Sibylle is wearing a wig” rumours, haha!), but it’s a good bit shorter. What do you think? I’m still slightly shocked at how very short it is but I have to admit that I like it.
Today I’d like to tell you about something that’s been bugging me for a while. I only talked about it once so far, and that was last month when I gave a talk at the Pagan Pub Moot in Dublin. I was speaking about my own pagan roots in the German-speaking countries, most especially the two amazing women Luisa Francia and Judith Jannberg. They each have their very own brand of magic, their personal, solitary path, and very strong and solid opinions. They are also both feminists, in the sense of re-discovering and re-asserting female magic which has all but disappeared from our culture.
I love their particular brand of feminism, which is infused with witchy magic. I refer to myself as a feminist too, mostly because I recognise the need to work with what I have, and I happen to live in a woman’s body with a woman’s soul. Both women and men can only profit when women refuse to adhere to the implicit standards we STILL have ingrained in our souls after the centuries of being disempowered and voice-less. We’ve stripped off the outward bonds in the last 100 years or so, but in our souls we often still feel trapped. A woman who has freed herself and is soaring, a woman who is powerful-from-within is a wonderful thing to behold.
Many of us have come to realise that whilst women were definitely worse off in the centuries of oppression, being the powerless of the sexes, it is still true that men have also been forced into rigid, stereotypical roles, and they still are to an extent. So we’re all repressed in a way, but after decades of feminism, many women have become very aware of the limitations society’s perception and our own acceptance of them still place on us. We have developed fine-tuned sensors against discrimination and a high level of self-awareness.
What I’m wondering in all this is: Where is masculinism?
As I stated above, men too have been oppressed. Just like women are supposed to be the pretty barbie-dolls, men are supposed to be Ken with rippling muscles and fancy cars, and of course a large income to take care of the barbie-woman who’s of course incapable of looking after herself. All these stereotypes have never been true, and have never been less true than they are today.Β 

I adore men. I also know for a fact that many are uncomfortable with the existing stereotypes. So why aren’t men rebelling? Why aren’t they forming men’s groups, go on marches, explore their masculine magic? I am waiting for the movement to start, because this world needs evolved men and as well, there are scores of evolved women who are longing for a wild man, not to “rescue” them or take care of them, but to explore an incredible life together free of rigid expectations and limiting beliefs.

I’m a masculinist as much as I’m a feminist! The time is ripe. After the much needed phase of female self-definition (which is still ongoing of course, because this kind of thing never ends or is “done”), we need men to break free, too. What this will look like in detail I wouldn’t presume to even guess, because as a woman, there’s no way I could possibly know. What I do know is this: All human beings who “find themselves”, who dare to dicsover who they truly are and stick to that uncompromisingly, turn out absolutely beautiful and awe-inspiring. I have seen it in women, and I’m looking forward to seeing it in men.
I’ve got my 13 Moons course in which women explore their divine femininity – I want to see a guy offer “12 Suns” to discover the divine masculine! Will it happen? I’m sure it will, and I hope I’ll be around to witness it.

P.S. Edit later: I’m not saying that there are no evolved men (I am privileged to know quite a few). What I’m saying is that we need a movement. It’s dang hard to be self-aware and go against society’s grain AND be alone. There have always been free-spirited women, but it was only when they got organised that real changes started to happen.

12 thoughts on “Are You A Masculinist?

  1. Love the hair, and the masculine magic movement. Some o the more prominent feminist pagans are real man haters, who want to suppress men. I would say I'm feminist, but I have nothing against men. Men and Women sould be able to live their lives freely, no matter what sex, or anything else they are.

  2. Thank you πŸ™‚
    I completely agree – we have seen over the past few millenia that having one of the sexes put ahead of the other is counterproductive. Turning the table on men now serves no purpose. Anyway, men rock πŸ™‚ so my feminism, like yours, will always be inclusive!

  3. I think it's a little embarrassing that I haven't even read Iron John (heard a lot about it though, in my defence). It's just gone to the top of my reading list! I'll watch the documentary too, thank you for the link πŸ™‚

  4. Beautiful new hair-do! And you bring about a good point here – one that I haven't thought about or seen from this perspective. I've always been somewhat of a “feminazi” and thought men deserved whatever bad fortune they received (horrible, I know), but I like how you've put it here. I have to agree that stereotypes for both genders prevail and it's time to put a stop to it.

  5. Oh don't think I haven't been guilty of this at times! It took me quite a while to learn to actually *like* men. Not be attracted to them (I've always been that), but to like them and appreciate them for what they are, without trying to change them or impose my own perspective. What if men demanded to be “seen”, the way women did and still do? I think that could give us a much-needed kick in the backside too πŸ™‚

  6. This article gave me goosebumps. It's long been researched that girls' self esteem takes huge damage by being talked down to during childhood and adolescence. Well guess what, the same is true for boys!! I will make sure to post this link somewhere visible, possibly in my next blog. Thanks for sharing it, Rita!

  7. Your hair looks very nice, suits you.

    I agree that men are often pushed into a box and forced to conform to the tough “men don't cry” stereotype, which no doubt can have a devastating impact on their mental health.

  8. Thank you πŸ™‚ I'm slowly getting used to it being so short!

    And yeah, it does have a devastating effect on men's psyche. I hope they'll start fighting back in an organised way, and soon!

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