Your Slightly Different Hag

The moon is waxing and the energy is growing. Autumn is slowly setting in here in Ireland – how is it where you live? Check out the grey morning I had a couple days ago, and the crow on the telephone line, it illustrates these October mornings so well.

I’m full of energy for new projects. We’re about to start new workgroups on herblore and on astral projection in the Tribal Community soon. On Monday 14th starts our first Witchcraft 101 forum group (there’s still time to sign up if you’d like to join!). I spent part of last Saturday at the Féile Draíochta and met so many inspiring and beautiful people, it just spawned more ideas and more motivation. Life’s grand, isn’t it?

Talking to so many new people brought it home once again that some of my life choices are certainly not standard and often require explanations. It made me feel like writing about it, so here it is, a good old-fashioned list titled “Things you might not have known about the hag”.

1. I don’t like to travel. I used to LOVE it, and did quite a bit of travelling and holidaying in my younger days. Then at 37, I got my first two budgies, and that was it. I don’t like going away anymore. I love seeing my friends and my family, so sometimes I still pry myself away for a few days at a time. But I’m always anxious when I leave, I miss my cutest every minute of every day, and I’m profoundly relieved when I walk back through my door and see them again. Well, staying put is more environmentally friendly, I’ve seen quite a bit already, and maybe it’s people’s turn to visit ME instead.

2. I don’t like going out. This is another thing I used to love doing. These days, I rather detest the usually loud atmosphere in a pub or bar, and I’d much rather spend the evening with people I love in their home or in mine. It’s cheaper, more conductive to conversation, and mostly more comfortable too. Exceptions are pagan moots in the lovely Harbour Bar in Bray, but then these only happen once a month.

3. This is related to point 2: I don’t go out during the week. I make very few exceptions, and usually only in or around Bray. My budgies are alone all day as it is, and when it’s all quiet they mostly sleep. At least when I’m home in the evenings, I have music on or they hear friends over Skype or similar, and that makes them all chirpy and lively. Weekends are different – I’m usually home during the day, so I don’t mind going out in the evening.

4. I don’t have a TV. I detest TV. I see it as a slow, poisonous, passive negative brain-wash. You don’t have to agree, that’s completely fine – usually I just say to people that I work in an office and spend an hour or two gaming most evenings, so that’s enough time spent staring at a screen.

5. I love living on my own. I need space. I’m hyper-sensitive and the lightest sleeper in the world, and so budgies are my ideal housemates: they’re quiet when it’s dark and lively while I’m awake. Honestly, they are such good company. Did I mention I love them to distraction?

These might seem like small things, but they affect so many parts of life! People wonder why I’m not excited at the prospect of winning a holiday somewhere. Give me a holiday at home and I’m ecstatic, haha! At work, I get weird looks for going home on time almost all evenings except for a few days at the very end of a quarter, and I explain that I’m happy to work overtime as long as it’s at home where I can be with my budgies.

Mad bird lady? You bet! And yes, it’s ok if you find me weird.

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10 thoughts on “Your Slightly Different Hag

  1. I don't like the noise at the clubs either. How are you supposed to talk in that noise? And I do like to talk. So I prefer to visit friends, or have friends over.

  2. Sandra Argenius

    Well it looks like you are in good company Sibylle. My favorite place in the world has always been home except to have fun at the pubs in my 20's. I have never been a traveler for traveling's sake but to reach someone or something. I don't like to leave my territory of which I count in our few hectares and the 2 kilos of dirt roads round about. Visiting friends is awesome and having company as well. Our two dogs has had the same affect on us as your birds have had on you. And when I was last on visit in the usa, I felt a longing for my friends the magpies and tits … strange indeed. The waxing and waning of the moon is like the breathing in and out no? But I love the waxing best, just as I love breathing in better than breathing out. 😉 Its exciting getting to know someone like you Sibylle!

  3. Those small furry/feathery creatures do steal our hearts, don't they?

    Lovely comparison of the moon phases with breathing in and out. I do love the waxing moon myself, because I like to create, to grow and to increase, but then if we kept breathing in, it wouldn't work either, we need the outbreath/letting go/cleansing and making room too.

    It's lovely seeing you commenting here! I can just picture you, surrounded by your dogs, walking the fields where you live 🙂

    Much love! xx

  4. Sybille, I'm the same! My preferred place to hang out is at home or other people's places, although a nice restaurant with great company works too as long the noise doesn't echo around the place and amplify – blah! I used to love clubs and pubs but not so much any more.

    I can only agree re: the TV. We have one because my daughter likes it and so I watch it in order to spend time with her, but were I by myself I would quite happily do away with it. One of those little DVD players for the very rare times I feel like watching a movie would do me nicely.

    So nice to know there are others with the same views out there. Thanks for sharing a little more about you xxx

  5. There's no place like home! I find travel extremely stressful, especially when flying is involved (all the security checks, waiting, queuing etc.). I don't do flying anymore and have no desire to visit far-away countries. Don't know what the hype is all about budget travel to Kenya and then get snatched by Al-Shebab.
    Noisy bars and pubs don't do anything for me either…I think it's an age thing 😉 I've mellowed down a lot from my 20s, listening to classical music, jazz and radio 4, enjoying the company of friends at home.
    Enjoy your trip to Berlin though, Sibylle, my favourite city in the world, where I feel most at home (used to live there as a child).

  6. You really lived in Berlin? Wow! I have my sister and two nieces there, and they love the place. As for me, cities aren't quite my thing although I do enjoy visiting them occasionally.
    Good point about the whole going-out and travelling thing being age related. Never thought I'd say that, but I'm very much ok with it! I guess our focus and interests change over the years, and it's all good.
    Glad to hear I'm not alone with these feelings 🙂
    Much love! xx

  7. It really is wonderful to know that there are other people like me 🙂 I actually agree about restaurants – right now I can't really afford eating out (especially as it's outrageously expensive here in Ireland), but when I do, it's lovely. I had a beautiful few hours with my sister at an Indian restaurant in Berlin on Saturday, and it was lovely.

    Much love! xx

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