Big Changes Incoming


SOOOO, no blog entry for two weeks. Sorry about that! I have the excuse that once again it’s the end of a quarter and I’m crazy busy at work – so much so that I often don’t feel like looking at another computer monitor when I get home (or in my lunchbreak, for that matter).

But the good – ok, great – news is, that this is about to change. I’ll still have a quarter end in future, but I’ll also have a new job and I suspect it’s going to be a lot less stressful. I’m very, very happy about this, as I’ll not only do Account Management but am to be moved to a team trainer/coach role after my initial training! Isn’t that amazing? Here go dreams coming true. There’s nothing I’d like more than do what I love most and combine it with a regular salary. Of course I’ll still keep building up my own Coaching and Teaching business at the same time, but it’ll feel wonderful to also spend my daytime work hours in alignment to my purpose.

So this is my last quarter end in my current job. I’ll have the second week of April off (hurray!) and then on the 14th I’ll start the new job, hopefully rested and happy. I honestly can’t wait.

With the big news out of the way, here’s what else has happened. Spring is here and I spent a lovely, quiet-but-exciting Spring Equinox high on energy from the burgeoning nature around me. The weather is trying to bring back winter but spring is slowly winning, with daytime temperatures getting milder and the sun coming out more often than not.

I feel relaxed, balanced (it’s not a co-incidence that the theme of the Equinox is balance, methinks!) and content. I am looking forward to my new job, my old job is a little stressful but ok, especially with the lovely people around there, and in the meantime I coach my existing clients and feel so very humbled, every time. It’s the greatest inspiration ever! By the way, did you know that I now offer free consultations via Skype to people who are interested in Coaching but not sure whether they should sign up or what package is right for them? You can sign up for one on my website – no strings attached.

I’m also getting really nice feedback on my short “Sparkly Difference” videos, which you can watch a) on my website, and b) on my YouTube channel which you can even subscribe to! I just love seeing people’s reactions. The videos are several hours work out of every one of my weekends, so it’s nice to see that you guys like them. I really do appreciate your feedback so very much. Keep it coming!

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I’d love to connect with you more, and hence my request: If you have a website or blog of your own, please share the URL in the comments here. I promise I’ll visit! You can also post links to your Facebook page or Twitter, if you have those. And while I’m not very active on my private account on Facebook, I do update my page regularly. It gives me a buzz to look for a new beautiful “good morning” and “good night” picture for you every day, and I also post a daily “Thought for the day” with hagish musings, as well as sharing interesting or funny posts from other pages. Check it out, and drop me a “Like” if you feel called to.

Sorry for the long list, but I so often forget to tell you what I’m up to and where else you can find me, I need to seize the opportunity when I remember for once and tell you absolutely everything! Now that’s out of the way, I’m able to send you my warmest spring blessings and much love. If you feel like someone’s hugging you right now, that would be me.

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Now Listen Closely…

                             Investing vs Not Being Able To Afford Something
The older I get and the more I talk to people, the more I realise that it’s the small differentiations that make up 90% of the misunderstandings and conflicts in the world. I’m not even exaggerating.
Someone posts against animal cruelty on Facebook. Someone else will jump in and say: “It would be better if people cared for starving multitudes and people who are tortured and war victims and and and…” Now if you look at it, this statement makes NO sense, because it assumes that to care about one cause must mean one can’t care about anything else.
I care about people AND animals. I care about all living things equally. Some people might only care about one or the other, but you can’t possibly know this from just one post on FB. D’oh!
Then there are the many, many people, from atheists to pagans, who denounce “religion” as the root of all evil. It’s a wrong statement. What they mean is “organised” religion. Indeed, many hierarchical religious organisations have problems with too much power on certain levels, and abuse of power on all. Religion, however, comes from Latin re-ligere which means re-connection, or connecting back. That’s exactly what I’m doing. I am religious, not just “spiritual” which by its name refers to the spirit. My religion encompasses body, soul, mind, and spirit equally.
Don’t get me wrong, please: I’m not saying everyone needs to agree with me. What they should do though, is use the correct term when complaining about something. It would prevent a lot of misunderstandings.
A while ago, I wrote on this blog that Samhain/Hallowe’en isn’t actually proven to have been the “Celtic New Year”. People came back protesting that they “could celebrate the New Year when they chose”. You know what? They’re right, and I never said otherwise. If the 1st of November makes sense to you as the New Year, by all means declare it your New Year, and more power to you. However, please don’t say it’s the “Celtic New Year” because we don’t really know whether that’s true. A lot about the Celts is still in doubt.
Do you see what I’m getting at? Small differences. Try relationships: how many times have you argued with an “other half”, only to find that you had misunderstood each other, and jumped to conclusions? I believe I’m noticing these things more now because of my training as a Coach. Coaching is all about a deep, inner listening that has to be learned and practised. My clients often wonder how much of our conversations I remember – well, it’s because I’m really really listening. It’s a skill that can be learned and practised, and one of the reasons why I recommend to get Coaching from someone who has a recognised qualification. It’s also why it’s not recommended to do more than 3 sessions of Coaching with clients a day; you just couldn’t keep it up. It eats up a lot of energy.
We can’t all become Coaches, but to listen more closely is something everyone can do. I am so invested in this that I started a new series of very short videos (around 2 minutes each) called “The Sparkly Difference”. Every weekend I publish another video explaining a small but important difference. The first one is posted above; check out the latest on my website or on YouTube and let me know what you think!
It’s astonishing what a shift it is to listen more closely. Incidentally, it’s also one of the skills I’m training as a pagan. Inner listening, intuitive listening are things I employ when I’m in nature. It’s different from listening to words, of course, but the idea is the same: I aim to see what’s there as it is, not as I interpret it after only half-perceiving it. I can only tune into the energy of a tree or a brook when I don’t push my pre-conceived idea of the tree or the brook on top of it. I need to employ this unfashionable quality, humility, when approaching them.
Maybe a little more humility in general would do us humans good in our interactions?

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