I’ve Got Something To Say

                  My new neighbour brought me this just now! Isn’t that 

                           the sweetest gesture ever? 

It’s Christmas Eve and I’m writing a blog entry. It won’t be very long but there’s something I have to say.

Some people might think that I should really be busy spending time with family and loved ones. To which I say, no, I shouldn’t. I’m Pagan and I celebrate the Solstice, not Christmas. Since I live in a predominantly Christian country though, I’m used to not getting my holidays off at work. That’s a bit of a shame, but no biggie for me. I have a celebration in the evening and feel festive all day instead.

I’m not saying this because I think Pagans shouldn’t celebrate Christmas. I know many Pagans who celebrate with their families; after all, it’s the time after the Solstice when the day gets visibly longer for the first time, and as well the important thing for them is to spend time with their loved ones. I think that’s great.

For me, Christmas has come to mean something different. For the last 18 or so years, I’ve spent the 25th and 26thof December – and whenever I can get away with it, the 24th as well – on my own. I look forward to these days all year. Why? Because they belong to me, and me alone. They are the only days in the year when I know nobody will bother me.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and my friends and I enjoy spending time with them. But everyone needs some time for themselves as well, and so I choose to spend other days with my loved ones and keep Christmas – which has no religious meaning for me – to myself. I love those days, I use them to plan ahead, be creative, or simply for being lazy. It’s pure bliss.

I wanted to get this out to the world, so people who don’t have anyone to celebrate with, or whose Christmas is ruined by something, don’t feel bad. There is enormous pressure for the holidays to be perfect, and people often feel like they fall short. I always grin at the song “Nobody wants to be alone for Christmas”. Yes, some people do! However, I realise that to people who are having a bad or disappointing experience, this song must be slightly bitter.

Therefore, here are my holiday wishes:

  • To those of you who celebrate, I wish a wonderful, magical Christmas which is everything you dream of.
  • To those who were going to have a magical Christmas but whose festive spirit was ruined by something, I send a hug and the assurance that no, it doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t mean you fail at Christmas, it’s just something that happens sometimes.
  • To those who, like me, don’t celebrate, I wish some beautiful days spent exactly the way you choose.
  • Finally, to those Earth Angels who work at Christmas, the nurses, firemen and –women, bus drivers etc, I want to give my heartfelt thanks for being there for all who need you. I hope you’ll get some time with your families too and wish you the merriest of Christmases!

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4 thoughts on “I’ve Got Something To Say

  1. Thank you and I am so with you… Thank you for sharing this, I do believe this message is very important for a lot of people. I know so many people who are especially lonely at Christmas and New Years. I always spend New Years alone, because I want to reflect and set clear intentions. I don't really like set times for celebrations and getting together with loved ones. One day is as good as the other. But I do also see the importance of ritual at times. I do believe we should do what we feel like and not what other people expect us to do because it is “the normal” thing to do. So brava! Thank you for sharing and enjoy your quality me-time. Much love. C xx

  2. What you say is so true, and I love this: “One day is as good as the other”! You are very wise, my dear.
    Yes, rituals do have their place too, and it makes sense to me, for example, to agree on one day to have a wedding on so everyone can meet there. I also love celebrating the course of nature (like the Solstice) at the relevant times. But sometimes, me-time is important!
    Much love! xxx

  3. Since moving overseas, I always feel guilty for not being with family on Christmas, so this post is like a gentle hug and a reminder that it's okay. Lots of love and light to you during this time and all times, Sibylle.

  4. It was moving to a different country that got me to stop celebrating, interestingly! These days, I go see my dad when the flights are cheaper, the airports less crowded, and he's not already surrounded by family. Much love back at you! x

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